Women Compromising their Integrity to be with Men

I want to speak to something that I see happening all around me. I am seeing women in some way compromise their full truth or integrity to be with a man. I am speaking of heterosexual women here (because this is the experience I can speak from.) In my community, with...

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Drinking From the Nectar of My Own Longing

As a full-fledged mature, sovereign woman, I have never outright claimed my deep desire for a sacred romantic partnership as one of the deepest prayers in my heart in this life. From the place of inner security, knowing, trust, self-love and holding, devotion and the...

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Your Challenging Feelings ARE Your Superpower

My CHALLENGING feelings ARE my SUPERPOWER. And, guess what, they are yours too! They continually teach me strength, perseverance and courage. They teach me the depths of a mother’s nurturing and soothing love. They teach me how to more fully and radically love myself...

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Being with Trauma and Challenging Emotional States

Simply by living in a body and in this constantly changing world, we all experience trauma. We all have places in ourselves where we feel blocked and stuck and this is usually linked to an experience we had where we shut down emotionally because we didn’t have the...

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Spiritual Openings: When Life Seems to Fail You

Life not working out how I wanted or imagined has been a life-changing blessing and has created the deepest openings for me. Of course, I didn’t see it that way when it started and believed I was failing or life was making a mistake. I had expectations and hopes and a...

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An ode to Grief and Heartbreak

I woke up this morning feeling very depressed and like I wanted to die, not unfamiliar experiences for me. As I leaned into these feelings, the tears began to come, the opening of genuine heartbreak and grief. I have been living with a lot of transition and...

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True Security and Freedom In Spite of Conditioning

Subtly or not so subtly, most of us learned as children to play a role of who we think we need to be. We learned to split off parts of ourselves in order to be loved, chosen and to belong. Not getting these when we are young is a threat to our actual survival, it is a...

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Are you free to relate truthfully to yourself and others?

A friend says to me that relationship involves sacrifice and obligation, that it involves specific roles for the relationship to work smoothly. This doesn't sit right because it's counter to how I live life. There is a way I have done life and supported clients for so...

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The Power of Being Completely Ourselves

Looking lovingly into my eyes, my new love says to me, “I’m glad you had a marketing problem.” I’ve been struggling with a marketing problem for my business so for a second I think he is talking about that. But, he is referring to my marketing problem with men. This...

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Being with Feelings IS the Healing

I've been feeling sad, lonely and down on and off for the last couple of days. I've been letting myself lay in bed in the mornings just a little bit longer. I've been putting my hand on my heart and my womb, breathing into the areas that are tender and hurt, and...

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What is transformation really?

All my programs are about massive transformation so I thought I would take some time to talk about what this lofty and somewhat overused word means. All but one of the definitions in the dictionary implies that transformation is a sudden and dramatic change, i.e. “a...

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Your Own Unique Healing Medicine Will Transform Your Life

To alchemize your life and live your most joyous, expressed, fulfilling existence, you have to discover, take and give your own medicine. This is not always an easy task. We are bombarded by all kinds of outside, often conflicting messages. We have swallowed and...

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Falling off the self-care wagon

In creating a new coaching practice, I had gotten so excited and activated around life and purpose that I stopped doing my normal self-care, eating well, exercising, meditating and doing all the spiritual practices I do daily. This has always been my superpower and my...

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Chasing After a Hungry Ghost

For most of my life, I worked and worked at transforming lifelong painful patterns in order to finally feel whole and at peace. For the first many years of my life, it was all about getting rid of my depression, for the later years, it was about finally being in...

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The Gifts of a Wounded Healer

I am a gifted healer and a wounded healer. In spite of all the therapy, transformational and spiritual work I have done over the last 20 + years – and it’s been a full-time job for me – I still have old deep, painful wounds that arise like a tidal wave, screaming for...

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Questioning the Journey: Why Haven’t I Fully Arrived Yet?

On Thanksgiving, I had a day of hitting rock bottom. Life felt unmanageable and undesirable and I cried in anger, hurt and grief. And, my mind was spinning a hundred negative stories that were perpetuating my misery. I knew this and I was doing it anyway. Eventually,...

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